You Can Heal Your Heart by David Kessler and Louise Hay

“A broken heart is also an open heart… our willingness is all it takes for healing to begin.” – David Kessler

I had the opportunity to study with David Kessler, who is the world’s leading grief expert, and I found his work to be revolutionary and insightful – simple and poignant. I bought a copy of every one of his books that day including You Can Heal Your Heart: Finding Peace After a Breakup, Divorce, or Death, which Kessler co-wrote with Louise Hay.

You Can Heal Your Heart includes people’s stories of loss and grief as well as insight into these stories gleaned from years of Kessler’s experience combined with Hay’s teachings on the power of thoughts and the use of affirmations. As the subtitle says, topics covered range from breakups and divorces, to the deaths of loved ones and pets, while also acknowledging a wide range of other forms of grief.

“Your loss will also be a window into your old wounds,” the authors say. When we experience a loss, our entire world changes, and in that moment of transition, we even have the grace and gift of the opportunity to heal old wounds that may have been suppressed and ignored. You Can Heal Your Heart provides tools for accepting and healing these existing emotional wounds. Many people, even those experiencing deep grief, often avoid the pain of allowing themselves to experience their grief fully.

“Hard times can serve as a reminder that our relationships are a gift.” The contrast of challenging experiences reveals the positive experiences. Looking at the way we grieve, we can begin to understand the grieving process and better support ourselves and loved ones. As new ideas are introduced, and new stories shared, there are new affirmations included, affirming healthy, healing beliefs around self-worth, love, and wholeness.

Through You Can Heal Your Heart, readers learn to harness the power of their grief and to “allow a new life to unfold,” guiding them on to the next chapter of their lives without ever escaping or denying the feelings that come with living through loss.